Everybody wants my angpow! Jam everywhere too!
Patience for this Chinese New Year Holiday.
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Hi,
The
holidays can be quite a stressful time isn't it? Meeting your in-laws,
visiting friends or your better half's friends. Having to reject that
cookie and drink, having to insist that you have had enough, your
pocket are getting emptied by over-zealous kids who seems like they
haven't seen money before, house after house. Before it reaches 12noon,
you're already tired and wishing that it was labour day instead. It's
going to be tough, but here's how we can remain at peace with ourselves
and the world around us...
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Want to be UNSTOPPABLE?
Want to control your circumstances?
Want to smash through rejection?
Quickly dismiss self doubt?
Act powerfully in spite of fear?
Achieve more in 2010 than the past 5 years combined?
Click down here for:
Mind Secrets
of the Unstoppable
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Man's hair miraculously disappears. "I miss my hair" says man.
This conversation took place the week after CNY 2009 last year:
Woman : What happened to your hair?
Man : I was at my in-law's place when it went poof!
Woman : It went poof?
Man : I was told it was bound to happen one day, with all my stress at work
Woman : But you had a full head of hair before the chinese new year.
Man
: Yeah, this was a case of ang-pows, in-laws and endless sitting in
living rooms. My hair finally could not take the stress and it went
poof! How I wished I listened to the advise given to me last year.
Woman : What's the advice? I'm sure lots of people don't want their hair to go poof.
Man: Three things.
Choose
how we react. When I visit that aunty and uncle that I cannot tahan I
pretend to smile and be polite and trade "oh you look so thin this
year" niceties, or when their home made cookies taste like cardboard
and I have to say "mmmmm mmm mm", that gives me tons of stress. Hey, I
feel bad for lying. last year I learned this technique that makes me
actually like my aunts and uncles. I was told that whenever I meet them
and they are talking to me, instead of throwing up like I usually do, I
should just exaggerate things to ridiculousness. If they say I put on
weight, I just imagine myself being the Michelin man stomping down the
twin towers in KL. If they ask me again how much I am earning now, I
just picture myself as Scrooge McDuck, Donald Duck's uncle, throwing
gold coins into the air from my underground vault. If I can do this
before I answer, I will prehaps be in a better, less stressed mood.
Again, the key is to exaggerate to silliness.
Needs.
According to human needs psychology there are 6 human needs. Just
understanding them would put us in a more understanding mood.
1. Certainty
2. Uncertainty
3. Love & Connection
4. Significance
5. Growth
6. Contribution
If
your in-laws ask you what your paycheck is like this year, it's because
they want to feel certain that their beloved son or daughter did not
marry a loser. If your relatives ask you alot of questions about your
life, it's because your stories bring about variety in their lives in
the form of aunty gossip around the mahjong table. Sometimes people
don't know what to say, but in their well meaning effort to have a
connection with you, they say the darnest things. If your uncle is
bragging about what he accomplished last year, it's because he wants to
feel significant like a "tai ko". And if they offer you cookies again
and again through your repeated no's, understand that they are seeking
to contribute to your wellbeing. So love it.
Y?What?
How? The power of asking the right questions. Our questions determine
our focus. Instead of asking why is my uncle such an arrogant d***head,
ask instead, "What can I learn here?" Or "What is good about this?" Or
"How can I make my stay here enjoyable?"
When my hair
grows back. I'll attempt these techniques in 2010. Cannot risk losing
my hair again, I look too much like Danny Devito.
"The
events depicted in this article are fictitious. Any similarity to any person
living or dead is merely coincidental."
HAPPY CNY and a HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
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Edmond is the founder of Education Republic and through his journey from
engineer to trainer, he has stumbled upon the secrets of the successful
and happy mind. He is a certified practitioner of NLP and coaches on the
practical aspects of psychology. His goal is
to be in a position to influence a change in Malaysia's education
system by 2029 and to turn Education Republic into the best adult
education and empowerment and corporate soft skills training
organization in Malaysia by 2012.
Contact him at 019-380 9788 or reply this email.
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HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR & HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!
Go easy on the pineapple tarts
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